5 TIPS FOR PARENTS TO BE THE BEST THEY CAN BE
THE SELF-LOVE PROJECT GUIDEBOOK
A designer dad once offered his journalist friend (also a parent) a beer. When the receiving parent mentioned it was still only 4pm, on a school day, the dad said: “yeah, but we’re parents… doesn’t that come with a licence to drink?” While every parent wants to be the best they can be, the reality is often more like: stretched to the limit, sometimes snappy and maybe even dependent on wine to cope sometimes. Research shows, if you struggle to give quality time, kindness & compassion to yourself, it’s almost impossible to give it authentically to your kids. You’ve got to fill your own (non-alcoholic) cup up first. That’s when everyone wins.
Here are 5 research-based qualities you can cultivate to be the best parent you can be.
- Non-Judgmental Objectivity
Can you look at yourself honestly and be okay with the good, the bad and the ugly? You don’t have to like what you see (physically, financially, emotionally, spiritually), and it’s okay to want to change parts of yourself, but learning to embrace ALL of you lovingly and without judgement is possibly the greatest gift you can give to both yourself and your children longer term. To learn more about this, read The Self-Love Project Guidebook. Available here.
- Eradicate Dead End Thinking
Science tells us that your thoughts actually create your emotions. Literally, every time you think a thought, chemicals flood your body with the corresponding molecule of emotion. This information is hugely powerful, especially if you’re wanting to raise well-balanced and emotionally intelligent children. It means you can control your emotional state with your thinking alone and teach them how to do that too. When you notice you feel off centre, identify the negative thought and replace it with a more positive one. Change your thinking, change your world. To learn more about this, read The Self-Love Project Guidebook. Available here.
Mindfulness training (or practice) helps you clear the gunk out your neural pathways and put space between you and your reactions to the triggers in your world (traffic, your boss, the kids and other stressors). Mindfulness expert Dr Dan Siegel says: “There was a day when people didn’t brush their teeth and I think mindfulness practice is a form of brain brushing… where if done in a daily way… you actually keep the circuits of compassion very much alive.” To learn more about this, read The Self-Love Project Guidebook. Available here.
- Emotional Health & Happiness
It doesn’t matter how rich, how smart, how tall, how skinny or how funny you are, we all have to deal with life as it happens. While life can be very, very good at times, it can also be challenging, confusing and even bring you to your knees. Knowing the key research-based happiness factors and activating them daily can maximise the amount of joy, contentment, curiosity, affection and love you will experience. This positive emotion is then available to flow outwards from you to your kids. To learn more about this, read The Self-Love Project Guidebook. Available here.
- Physical Health & Wellness
Stress is now identified as one of the largest causes of disease in our time. This is why health, wellness and resilience are such hot topics of discussion, research and practice in 2016. Cultivating good habits around food and movement is essential if you’re going to live a long and happy life. The same goes for your kids. To learn more about this, read The Self-Love Project Guidebook. Available here.
- The Self-Love Project Guidebook is the product of more than a year spent deep in research from Harvard, Princeton, Yale, The University of Sydney, TED Talks, The Greater Good Science Centre, The New York Times, Forbes Magazine and a plethora of institutions dedicated to physical, psychological and emotional-spiritual wellness. It will update your operating system with precision so you’re running on Self-Love software for optimal wellbeing and best you parenting.